I drove out to Cary today to help James go through the last of Mike’s stuff. He’s still struggling, and it’s not easy for him to do this. But being there and seeing things in his handwriting, looking at the photos he took, just touching his things — it was comforting.
I didn’t bring a whole [...]
Let me start by saying I’m a firm believer in people coming back to visit the ones they loved after they’ve died.
My grandmother believed it, and I guess she passed it on to me. Her sister, Eunice came to her when she was dying to tell her it was OK. I remember my father thinking [...]

We’re going to order ribbon magnets. Since they’ll cost us $4.50 each, we’ll likely sell them. Here’s the design we’re choosing.
It’s the blue-green plaid he so loved, and the blue is closer to Duke than Carolina. That’s important, too.
Just saw this online:
The number of Americans with diabetes increased by 15 percent in two years to 24 million, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. About 8 percent of the population now has the disease, mainly Type 2 diabetes, which is linked to obesity and sedentary living, the agency said in a [...]
We’re trying to organize a healthcare rally in Savannah, Ga., for Aug. 24. We have a whole lot of people interested in coming — we just need to know where to tell them to gather.
We decided we’re going to keep it positive — we have no intention of blasting Memorial Health. They’ve blown me off [...]
I had supper with my friend, Liz tonight. Monday night. Rob works late, so it’s often girls’ night out. Liz runs a nonprofit that takes care of people with developmental disabilities, and she loves those she calls “my people.” She has a wonderful sense of humor and finds such joy in these people others don’t [...]
The American Medical Association came out with a report card this week, assessing the claims processing performance of Medicare and seven national commercial health insurers: Aetna, Anthem Blue Cross Blue Shield, CIGNA, Coventry Health Care, Health Net, Humana and United Healthcare.
So, who most often pays the rate they’ve contracted to pay? Medicare. Our national single-payer insurance [...]
As Mike’s stepfather, I can’t say why it’s taken me so long to visit this site or post anything. I guess in my own way I’m working through feelings and memories, and even though I freely talk about it with Leslie, other family and friends, I find myself at a loss to adequately express how [...]
As a daily newspaper reporter for more than 25 years, I’ve learned to be wary whenever I hear the word “reform.” In today’s America it usually means making things worse for average people like me.
Mental health “reform” here in North Carolina took a system that was working and shut it down. It wasn’t perfect, but [...]
Danny talked me into talking to a lawyer about the horrible treatment Mike got at Memorial Health in Savannah, Ga. Apparently it isn’t malpractice unless the patient dies then and there. Because Mike suffered terribly but survived their mistreatment for a couple of years, there’s no lawsuit.
It may be immoral to not tell a patient [...]